My Dear Sweet Stefanie,
I wish you were here to celebrate today with us.
I have so many feelings happening right now…
Sadness for you that you had to let go of the best thing that ever happened to you 39 years ago…
Gratefulness for the gift of motherhood that you gave me in Ali Rose…
Sorrow that we didn’t get to spend more time together over the years….
Anger that your life was gone from us much too early. So much mystery there and my heart aches.
Proud of you for so many things you did in your life that YOU believed in even though others did not.
I see where Ali gets it… such a passion for justice! So much happening in your head and heart. Truly, I have never met such strength and courage… and it passed down to our daughter.
39 years ago on a Sunday morning…. I waited…. You waited. We didn’t know it was going to be today, but at 9:00pm little Miss Ali decided to make her entrance.
The next day, you had to walk out of that hospital with empty arms and a broken heart. I cried for you and still do.
I walked out of that hospital with a heart full of love and joy for you and this precious little girl.
You lived for many years with an empty hole where our daughter had been.
I lived with so much joy and wanted to share her life with you. When I found you again after years of not knowing where and how to look - you were so happy to know about her life.
I so looked forward…
There was so much about you that both Ali and I wanted to know...there are mysteries that will never be known and questions that will never be answered.
I feel like God blessed us all when she and her beloved were able to visit you before you left this earth. You were feeling better and we could not wait for you to come to the engagement party and be part of the future wedding.
You never had any idea how much we loved you. And you were taken from us before we got to express it….
Well, maybe there was a divine plan but I’m not so sure I like it…
You had some very rough years however, and I am glad you are out of pain and heartache.
The daughter that you bore was…like you… a force to be reckoned with. Let me tell you about her again.
This girl with thick dark brown hair and brown eyes with the longest lashes I had ever seen, came into my life..... miraculously.
One day I was not a mother and the next day I was.
We loved each other from the moment we laid eyes on each other.
This little powerhouse of a baby, child, girl, teenager and adult.... how could I have ever lived without her?
She rarely cried. Really.
She loved shoes before she could walk. Really.
Determined! I'm pretty sure if you look the word up in the dictionary - her picture is there.
She never crawled. It was just not her style. At 8 months she stood up and started walking and there was no stopping her.... and she is still going!
Opinionated…. she informed her pre-school principal that she was wearing the wrong color of lipstick! That's just how she rolled.
Her heart is big, sincere and loyal...
She always loved her friends - even if they didn't love her back. She truly wanted to know everyone. Today, I think she DOES know everyone...
She loves her family and still mothers her siblings when they let her.
This Girl....
She decided that junior high was boring, so she lobbied to start high school in her 7th grade year. She graduated from High School at 16 with honors! Then at 20 graduated from college with a BA.
She never had a curfew. She didn't need it but policed herself. She knew that my ear was ALWAYS ready to listen - and listen I did and do....
This teenage girl would invite all of her gobs of friends over.... we were "the house" and I was "the mom." I should have counted all of the chocolate chip cookies I made for these kids. Some of her friends would come over for cookies, milk and conversation even when she wasn't home! She sure loved her friends.
Ali has had brushes with death & tragedy...but THIS GIRL is a force to be reckoned with!
This precious baby girl has done more than many people at her age. She has traveled and had great jobs that have put in the most interesting places with interesting people.
This girl decided she wanted to live in New York and made it happen!
She decided she wanted to live in French Canada and learn to speak the language. She made it happen!
This Girl has turned into my best friend. She has loved, supported and encouraged me through some very difficult times.
This mighty little girl is another year older today and I wish I could read her a story and rock her to sleep just one more time. I would kiss the bridge of her nose and softly stroke her eyebrows until she fell asleep.
I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always - as long as I'm living, my baby you'll be.
I love this girl "infinity and a googol.”
I think I will go sit in the rocking chair that I bought right before she was born...
We did a good job, Steff. See you when we get there.